Our bodies struggle to endure it, our relationships, too. Our energy levels reflect its long-and short-term effects, right down to the core of our being. It’s the one constant we can depend on in our physical universe, but when change occurs, rather than allow it, our first instinct is to run from it, and treat it as an enemy. Why not embrace change as the first sign that some new thing awaits you, probably right around the corner?
Whether it’s a divorce, a death in the family, the loss of a job, or an upcoming move, being jarred from your comfort zone can be upsetting. It can sneak up on you, or it can feel like a hard slap. It happened to Joan, a computer programmer and self-proclaimed workaholic with a husband and a 3 year-old son. The last thing on Joan’s mind was losing her job. She’d been giving her all at the office, starting her day before seven a.m., often not to return until well after eight or nine. Unemployment was sobering. She and her husband had just purchased a home which they planned to renovate. Now, forced to live on one salary, it looked like they might lose it.
What time at home helped Joan discover was the closeness with her child that she’d long been missing. At last, she was available to make his breakfast, take him to pre-school, and tuck him in at night. The deepening experience of being a better parent significantly improved her marriage, too. The gift of change brought with it the realization that her former life had been out of balance, and the cost to her family was tremendous. Change was Joan’s wake-up call, and because of it, she was able to reconnect with what’s really important. She eventually returned to the job market, only this time, seeking a position that was not only financially rewarding, but would allow her more quality time with her family.
When we welcome the dance of change, we’re able to move forward harmoniously, free from the bounds of complacency.